I missed the mass last week because I was invited to a debut party of my peer in the publication. I know. Guys my age are probably going to weddings, not debuts. But for me, I still don't know when debut invitations will stop coming.
Anyway, that's not the point of this post. I attended the mass earlier to compensate for what I have missed last week. The homily was about kids traits which adults do not have, according to the reverend. These are simplicity, honesty, and humility. And he presented arguments that actually made sense to me and made me reflect: Do I still have the kid in me being simple, honest, and humble?
Kids are simple. They live a simple life - less complicated and less absurd. The rev said that adults are not simple because they make things complicated. There are certain things that can be simply lived but because of the things that are running in their head of these adults, they complicate things. High standards and impossibly much ambitions make things complicated, according to the rev. Yes, I believe so. And I know, kids will grow into adults full of ambitions, and their experiences as they age will set their own standards in life. These are phases of life. What I think the rev was trying to say is that adults need to learn to let go of things that they do not need. High standards and ridiculous amount of ambitions are not necessary. Adults need to focus on things that their hearts want, and that's where they start doing what they need to do. Adults make things complicated by creating high expectations and chaotic ambitions.
Kids are honest. They say things straight to your face without any hesitation. If they didn't like things, they say the don't like things. If they wanted something, they say it. If they agree, they agree. No more, no less. And I agree with what the rev said about adults in terms of this best policy - adults tend to sugarcoat things, even their own selves for, again, ambitions. Fame, power, wealth - these are just some magical things which make adults go gaga. They won't care about lying, deceiving, and cheating just to get what they want.
Kids are humble. They are codependent to their parents, guardians, or elderly. They look up, and never underestimate the people around them. Adults, on the other hand, tend to stamp their feet on other people's faces when they know they are above them. For what? Just to advance their game. They tend to step on other people just to get what they want - and sometimes, these wants plainly result to greediness and self-destruction.
These three things go hand-in-hand, I believe. By focusing on things we desire and keeping them on a realistic level (that is, achievable) of ambition, we do not create chaos on how we achieve them. We grab these dreams of ours with honor and integrity - humble to people we are working with, looking at them eye-to-eye, and honest to God, with no hesitations and fears.